From pastor friends:

Others will have had much more experience than we and have already offered details of books. A helpful workbook for marriage preparation written by Bill van Schie (Reformed Church):

W.J. van Schie “Preparing to leave and cleave: discovering the basic principles of a Biblical marriage.” revised edition. Dandenong: Reformed Churches Publishing House, 1999. 58 pages.

‘Preparing to Leave and Cleave’ is based on the Prepare-Enrich program.

Contents: Realistic love expectations; Realistic marriage expectations; Personality issues; Communication and conflict resolution; Values expectation and religious orientation; Roles expectation and financial management; Sexual relationship; Family, friends and leisure; Child training and discipline; Post Wedding encouragement visit. Bibliography.

We’ve also found the teaching in “Restoring the Christian family” by John and Paula Sandford. Tulsa,OK: Victory House, 1979 helps people understand the reasons why there can be difficulty in their marriage relationship and how to bring Christ’s healing.