Failing to forgive allows those who hurt you to have power over you: why let them do that?

One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything every night before you go to bed. – Bernard Baruch

Carl Brakehielm writes in “Forgiveness” Perhaps one can say that it is through forgiveness that one who forgives affirms the value and worth of the forgiven, whose value & worth he or she has brought to question by the others wrong doing.

“Resentment [non-forgiveness] is like holding on to a burning ember with the intention of throwing it at another, all the while burning yourself. When we feel resentful, we feel strongly the pain of the past again and again. Not only does this take an obvious and dramatic toll on our emotional well-being, it can powerfully and negatively impact our physical well-being as well.” Robin Casarjian “Forgiveness: A Bold Choice for a Peaceful Heart”