(Sent by a facebook friend)…

Forgiving the small things/daily imperfections in each other or circumstances. Not “sweating the small stuff. ”

Forgiving significant hurt and offense against you.

Forgiving a persons character failing in an ongoing way without losing yourself.
(that is, always accommodating their offenses   to you)

Making forgiveness the goal of where you want your hurt to end up even when you don’t feel you can let it go yet.

Forgiving specifically when asked by the offender for forgiveness and assessing whether reconciliation is possible or not.

Forgiving even when the other has not owned or repented of their offense to you.

Not reconciling with the other even if you have forgiven them because they have not owned or repented of their offense to you and that offense is considered significant enough to harm you in an ongoing relationship with them.

When you forgive you dont forget but you may choose to not allow it to occupy your mind as it once did until you could you start to let it go.

The ultimate picture of forgiveness is Jesus on the cross saying father forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing. He neither covered up, pretended or excused what they were doing as unimportant. He made a spiritual statement of insight and empathy that opened doors of reconciliation for those who eventually would understand and own their failings and inability to love completely.