[An overseer] must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children
under control with all dignity (1 Timothy 3:4).

A pastor friend of mind came face-to-face with a parent’s worst fear: His teenage
daughter had become pregnant before marriage.

Perry was struggling with prickly questions: Should he resign his pastorate? Should he
encourage an abortion to cover his embarrassment and save face? Should he put her on the
pill to avoid future problems?

I reminded him, "The primary goal for your life–to be the father and husband that
God wants you to be–has not been blocked by this unfortunate event. If there was ever a
time that your wife needed a godly, committed husband and your daughter a loving,
supportive father, it’s now."

"But, Neil, what about being the pastor God wants me to be?"

Perry argued. "Doesn’t this disqualify me from being a pastor?"

I directed him to one of the requirements for an elder in 1 Timothy 3:4, 5: managing
his household well and keeping his children under control. I said, "Even the best
managers in the world have problems; they just know how to manage them. You didn’t
instruct your daughter to sleep with her boyfriend. That was a sinful decision she made.
How are you going to manage your home now for the good of the family? Instructing your
daughter to get an abortion so you can save face is mismanagement. Kicking her out of the
house is mismanagement. But standing by your daughter, comforting your wife, walking in
the light, and speaking the truth in love is managing your household well."

Spiritual leaders face the same temptations and difficulties other Christians do; they
just face them in a fishbowl and their struggles are more visible. It’s not a lack of
problems that determines the quality of our ministry, but how we handle the problems we
have.

Lord, I want to walk in the light even in problem situations. Help me face the
difficulties of my life and seek Your way of resolution.

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It is written by Neil Anderson at http://www.ficm.org/