An overseer] must be one who manages his own household well, keeping
his children under control with all dignity (1 Timothy 3:4).

A pastor friend of mind came face-to-face with a parent’s worst
fear: His teenage daughter had become pregnant before marriage. Perry
was struggling with prickly questions: Should he resign his pastorate?
Should he encourage an abortion to cover his embarrassment and save
face? Should he put her on the pill to avoid future problems?

I reminded him, "The primary goal for your life–to be the
father and husband that God wants you to be–has not been blocked by
this unfortunate event. If there was ever a time that your wife needed a
godly, committed husband and your daughter a loving, supportive father,
it’s now."

"But, Neil, what about being the pastor God wants me to
be?" Perry argued. "Doesn’t this disqualify me from being a
pastor?"

I directed him to one of the requirements for an elder in 1 Timothy
3:4, 5: managing his household well and keeping his children under
control. I said, "Even the best managers in the world have
problems; they just know how to manage them. You didn’t instruct your
daughter to sleep with her boyfriend. That was a sinful decision she
made. How are you going to manage your home now for the good of the
family? Instructing your daughter to get an abortion so you can save
face is mismanagement. Kicking her out of the house is mismanagement.
But standing by your daughter, comforting your wife, walking in the
light, and speaking the truth in love is managing your household
well."

Spiritual leaders face the same temptations and difficulties other
Christians do; they just face them in a fishbowl and their struggles are
more visible. It’s not a lack of problems that determines the quality of
our ministry, but how we handle the problems we have.

Lord, I want to walk in the light even in problem situations. Help
me face the difficulties of my life and seek Your way of resolution.

This daily devotional is published and distributed by
http://www.GOSHEN.net/ . It is written by Neil Anderson at
http://www.freedominchrist.com/ .